As I sit here today I am in totally unknown territory. I am building a new business from the ground up and it is not comfortable. Far from it infact! Don’t get me wrong, I have the skillset and credentials to do the work I have chosen to do but that does not make the transition easy. I have even set up and run successful businesses in the past but nope, what I am doing today is still not easy. Why? The answer is simple: change.
He’s right of course but did it make me feel any better knowing that? Nope! It made me laugh out loud (really!) because on some level we all know it’s true and it’s no different to someone saying: “this is the game of life, none of us get out alive so best you enjoy the ride…” and that someone, I should add, is often me! I love to quote that to others and also to remind myself daily that whilst we can do our best every day, there are certain things we just can’t and never will be able to control so, best we get enjoying the ride whatever we feel about it on certain days or stages along the way.
Everybody copes differently. How you cope also changes as you get grow, age and develop both personally and spiritually and for me, in the here and now, I no longer stress the small stuff. That, I have learnt, is a real energy drain and chances are that things will all work out just dandy in the end. The bigger stuff however (or what I still think of as big stuff) is a bit trickier. Why? Because it all feels so very important but is it really? It’s not like I am a cardiologist in my profession and working on life and death situations every day but sometimes it really feels like that. Crazy but true! Sometimes it all seems to matter so much to me and in these times I know that I need to stop, reflect, shift and have a serious reality check with myself because in the big picture of life, I know the difference between what is truly important and what is not.
History is a great teacher. No matter how great the master or the legacy in the making, history shows us that no one gets to live forever. I have come to find that a very humbling and grounding realisation and it also helps me to make better decisions in the day to day moments in the here and now. History shows us that life is all about change and that nothing ever stays the same, only our beliefs and conditioning can (and often do) keep us stuck. When I sit quietly in this truth, peace prevails. I know that my own thinking around change is either making me fearful or keeping me stuck. Susan Jeffers book: “Feel the fear and do it anyway” is such a great headline for living in the moment, feeling the fear and doing it anyway. Hard as we try to avoid it – fear will be with us for as long as we are in our human costumes and the choice is simple: do we feel the fear and move forward by small actions every day or do we stay stuck , fear-filled and small?
As I end this post today, I find myself drawing strength in the knowledge that whilst I might be chartering unknown territory, I am not alone. We are all in this together and many of us are sitting in the same seat (even if in other areas of the world) and sharing the same experiences, same fears and same realisations. Finding a way forward might be an individual experience based on our own unique choices and daily actions but in the end, we all get to cross the finish line no matter what. How we do that remains firmly in our control by the small actions we take daily. My advice to self is this: feel the fear, let it be, ride the waves, and then take action – any positive action – to push through it and beyond whilst at the same time imagining all the virtual high 5’s coming at you and rooting for you all the way. And just like that (snapping of fingers), fear is replaced with gratitude! Oh, how incredible is this journey called life!